A: I suspect you aren’t only bored but also depressed, because you feel like you’re no longer useful or of much value to anyone. This isn’t true, of course, but your feelings are understandable.
After all, for much of your life you worked hard to be a good mother (which isn’t easy, especially as a single mom) and I commend you for that. But now your children are gone, and you feel like you’re no longer needed. You aren’t — not in the way you once were. Even when your children call or text, or come home, you sense things aren’t quite the same. And hard as it may be for you to face, that’s the way it should be. Part of our responsibility as parents is to prepare our children to be on their own.
The real question I hope you’ll seek to answer is this: What does God have in store for you now? God isn’t finished with you; some of the best years of your life could be ahead of you. Open your heart and life to Jesus Christ, and then ask Him to guide you. God’s promise is true: “I know the plans I have for you ... plans to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11).
What will your new life be like? It could involve anything: working with a local service agency, getting a job, visiting people who are lonely, etc. Many churches need volunteers, or are involved with groups that do; your pastor could connect you with them. May God bless you.
Q: How bad do you have to be before you’ve crossed the line and God will no longer forgive you? I’m afraid I’ve crossed that line. I used to not even think about it, but now I’m really scared. — Z. McF.
A: The fact that you’re afraid you’ve gone too far and God won’t forgive you is actually a good sign, because it means there is hope for you! If you were unconcerned, then you’d never turn to God, and you’d never have any hope of forgiveness.
After all, the person who’s in the most danger spiritually is the one who feels no need for God’s forgiveness. He or she is like someone walking around with a deadly cancer growing inside them -- and yet ignoring it until it’s too late. Sin is like a deadly cancer, for unless we’re cleansed from it, it will destroy us. The Bible warns, “Whoever remains stiff-necked after many rebukes will suddenly be destroyed — without remedy” (Proverbs 29:1).
The most important thing I can say to you, however, is this: It’s never too late to turn to Christ. Even when you wanted nothing to do with Him, God still loved you — and He loves you still. Do you remember the Apostle Paul in the Bible? At one time, he hated Christ, and did everything he could to destroy those who’d become His followers. How could God ever forgive someone like that?
But one day, Paul met Jesus, and God not only forgave him, but Paul’s life was completely changed. This can happen to you. By faith ask Jesus to forgive you and come into your life -- and He will. You can trust God’s promise: “The blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin” (1 John 1:7).
Send your queries to “My Answer,” c/o Billy Graham, Billy Graham Evangelistic Association, 1 Billy Graham Parkway, Charlotte, N.C., 28201; call 1-(877) 2-GRAHAM, or visit www.billygraham.org.