Ask to see ‘unlovable’ people through His eyes
by Billy Graham
December 06, 2013 10:07 PM | 886 views | 0 0 comments | 12 12 recommendations | email to a friend | print
Q: I know we’re supposed to love everybody if we’re good Christians, but isn’t that unrealistic? Some people just aren’t very lovable (including some of our relatives we’ll have to be with at Christmas). It’s all I can do to put up with them for a few hours. — Mrs. N.L.

A: You’re right: Some people aren’t all that easy to love. (They may think the same thing about us!) But Jesus’ command is clear: “Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another” (John 13:34).

The key is to ask God to help you begin to look at others the same way He does. This doesn’t mean you overlook their faults or pretend they don’t exist; after all, God sees us just as we are, including our sins and our faults. He also yearns for us to get rid of them and become better people, and when we come to Christ, He puts His Spirit within us to change us and help us overcome sin’s power.

But God loves us in spite of our faults. If He didn’t, He never would have sent His Son into the world to give His life for our salvation. And when we begin to see people through His eyes, we’ll begin to love them the same way He does -- in spite of their faults. We’ll also begin to face our own sins and shortcomings, and we’ll realize that apart from God’s grace we aren’t any better than they are.

As you approach the holidays ask God to give you an extra measure of patience. But most of all, ask God to help you love others the same way Christ has loved you -- freely and beyond measure. It may not change them (at least at first) -- but it certainly will change.

Q: I’m already depressed about Christmas. Last year, we resolved not to spend as much money or get so busy, but I can already tell that it’s not going to happen. How we can make Christmas what it ought to be, instead of this rat race?— Mrs. E.W.J.

A: I suspect countless readers feel exactly like you do; the holiday season has become so busy and so commercialized that we hardly have time to stop and think about its true meaning.

But it shouldn’t be this way, nor does it need to be. You can still take steps to make this Christmas a less stressful and more spiritual time. Let me suggest three words that might help you. First, simplify. Make a list of all the things you have to do between now and Christmas, then cut out everything you possibly can. Not everything is important or necessary; do what you can to simplify your life.

Then plan. Many of us frantically jump from one thing to another around Christmas, simply because we haven’t planned ahead. But even a little planning can add hours to your day. And don’t feel you have to carry the whole load; get your family to help with projects.

Most of all, focus; that is, deliberately take time every day to focus on the true meaning of Christmas. Read together from the Bible’s account of Jesus’ birth, and thank God for sending His Son into the world for our salvation. Especially help your children discover the wonder of God’s love for us. The Bible says, “See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!” (1 John 3:1).

Send your queries to “My Answer,” c/o Billy Graham, Billy Graham Evangelistic Association, 1 Billy Graham Parkway, Charlotte, N.C., 28201; call 1-(877) 2-GRAHAM, or visit

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