“Let me say by the time you get this (I) will be dead,” the first line of an email believed to be from Kristofak, 58, said.
The email was sent to the Journal at 5:20 a.m. Monday; the day after news broke on the death of Kristofak’s ex-wife, Donna Nations Kristofak, 48.
Responding to a 911 call, Cobb Police and Fire officers found her unresponsive with serious injuries at 11:48 a.m. Saturday at her home in the 3900 block of Tall Pine Drive, near Walton High School. Donna Kristofak died after being transported to WellStar Kennestone Hospital.
Police secured an arrest warrant for John Kristofak on murder and aggravated assault charges in connection to the homicide in one of Cobb’s more desired areas.
In his rambling email full of misspellings and with little punctuation, John Kristofak said he and Donna Kristofak had been through an acrimonious divorce after 20 years of marriage that was hard on everybody, particularly their three children.
“There is no justifying what i did and im sure i will burn in hell for it,” John Kristofak wrote.
He claims that a “set up” led to months of jail time earlier this year, when he violated a temporary protective order. He said the order came after a shoving match with Donna Kristofak, and aggravated stalking charges were issued after he put “ugly signs” in her yard. John Kristofak wrote that after seeing his wife in the parking lot of the YMCA on March 29, “I thought she was staring at me so i figured something must be wrong with the kids.”
John Kristofak wrote that he then started driving toward his ex-wife, then, “Immediately she gets on the phone with the police before i know it 5 cars are on me with weapons drawn.”
Holly Comer, CEO and executive director of the YWCA of Northwest Georgia, said such claims of blaming others are typical for a stalker. Her agency serves victims of domestic violence and sexual assault.
“Most stalkers and abusers are very manipulative, and they will try to manipulate any situation to make it seem like it’s not their fault,” Comer said.
John Kristofak pleaded guilty to aggravated stalking and family violence simple battery charges Oct. 12. Judge Adele P. Grubbs sentenced him to four years and five months probation and seven months in jail, with credit for the time he already served. He was also given a permanent restraining order, forever banning him from contacting or going within 500 yards of his ex-wife.
John Kristofak wrote that on Oct. 29, “I walk out a free man.”
John Kristofak wrote that the couple never had any physical altercations before the shoving match, and even denied a neighbor’s claim that he often raised his voice.
“I’m thinking to myself they conspired to have you arrested on top of that you lost everything what am I going to do,” he wrote. “I felt very depressed and angry and should have sought he;p (sic).”
While police haven’t commented on how Donna Kristofak was killed, family friends said that the Kristofak’s teenage son told them that John Kristofak stabbed Donna Kristofak after trapping her in her garage.
Comer said she questions John Kristofak’s apparent suicide threats. She said it is common for abusers facing charges to make such threats as a way to show they are in control of the situation. She also wondered about his claims now that he should have gotten help.
“I do think that many of them should seek help,” Comer said. “But I think, again, he is using that as an excuse for his behavior. You probably should have thought of that before you allegedly went and killed your wife.”
After the Journal provided him with the email, Investigator Anthony Stier with the Cobb Sheriff’s Office Fugitive Unit said, “It’s probably him,” when asked if the message came from John Kristofak.
While police have said that the U.S. Marshals are assisting them, Stier said he couldn’t comment Tuesday when asked of the status of the investigation, but said they were still looking for John Kristofak.
Police said John Kristofak was last seen driving a brown Chevrolet Equinox with Georgia tag BUV 2635. They said anyone who sees him is asked to call 911, while anyone with information in the case is asked to call (770) 499-3945.
Comer said her agency will be there to serve domestic violence victims.
“Unfortunately, this wonderful woman who had children and sisters is no longer with us,” she said. “I think she did everything she could to try to protect herself. You need to call us if you need help, but you need to do everything you can within the legal system."